Haha, you speak with the tone of one who was just accused.
You need not feel disgusted with yourself! In fact, you shouldn’t. Assuming you don’t make those kinds of jokes, of course.
The reason why, yes, you’re supporting rape when you’re making rape jokes is… How do I explain this.
When you stay silent, when people do bad things? That tells them “yes, it’s okay to do this.” It isn’t “silent condemnation.”
Think about it this way: you’re a kid on the playground. You’re in a circle around a bully, beating on another kid.
Are you beating the kid? No.
Are you egging the bully on? No.
Is that bully going to stop, because you’re saying nothing?
No. That bully is going to keep going, until someone tells them to stop—because more than likely, no one ever told them what they were doing is wrong. Or maybe someone did, and they don’t care. Who knows.
But you know it’s going on. And yet, you do nothing. You had the ability to help, but you didn’t. Your not-helping was a choice you made: for which you are morally responsible.
Is it understandable why you didn’t? Of course. Social pressure is a powerful force. But you are still responsible.
So if you don’t make yourself vocal opponent of rape, you will be lumped with those who support it. Much like the bully, as they beat on the kid and you watch, will assume you’re on their side.
From the point of the kid being bullied? You’re definitely NOT on THEIR side, if you’re saying nothing.
Remember that words or the lack there of are powerful things.
Perhaps it sounded like I was thinking I was being accused, but actually I was just baffled by the train of logic presented.
And while it is a good enough analogy you’re making, it isn’t really related to the point the article was making. So I still stand confused at the logic it uses.
They are not saying you support them, but they think so.
You are not correcting them on them thinking you support them.
Ergo, you support them.
I find that to be a flawed line of thought.
The point the article is “Do not validate rapists’ thoughts by consenting via silence. To validate a rapist is to support them. And to be silent during rape jokes, or to make rape jokes, is validation for a rapist’s thoughts.”
To simplify even further:
Silence = validation. Validation = support.
Except, silence is not validation. You do not agree to something by not disagreeing. You also don’t disagree, no, but you certainly don’t agree.